This week's Lusty Lady column covers the sticky issue of who pays on a date. I've pretty much always paid at least my half, even on first dates—unless the guy was super-rich or insisted (which generally wasn't a problem with the breed of nearly homeless I was used to dating).
I know most women insist on the guy paying, but I've never felt comfortable with that. I still recall a phone call I got from a friend of mine who I'd fixed up with another friend. Both of them were fairly well-off and for a variety of reasons, I thought they might get along. Wrong!
Midway through their date I get a call on my cell. "He's making me pay!" my lady pal hissed. It was difficult to hear her as she was whispering from the restaurant's ladies room, but the gist was that she'd offered to pay half and he'd accepted. No matter how many times I pointed out that she was the one who offered, she remained adamently opposed to any further dealings with him. She also yelled at me for fixing her up with someone who had "girl" hands.
Anyway, I've worked since I was a kid and never felt like my vagina entitled me to a free meal (my tits, well, they're a different story). I'm coming up to a point in my life where I'm going to be forced to rely on my boyfriend a little more heavily in the finance department for a while and it's making me extremely unhappy and nervous. I know he doesn't mind, and in fact, volunteered, but I can't help but feel like a bit of a loser.
Maybe I'm just a control freak. Ya think?
I actually think the Big Greek should take on some of my bills too, if the truth be known...
Jeez, ya live together and the Big Man is absolutely correct in helping and it all comes out even in the end anyway (I took a peek at the ending of The Book of Life, which is how I know all that)... you have a stand-up guy who my daughters just think is great and that's a damn good indicator... (for the record, they're enamored of the Judes too)
Now where exactly should I send that college tuition bill to?
Posted by: comaboy | February 28, 2006 at 06:36 PM
I'm afraid you're going to have to perform sexual favors if you plan on getting any off the Big Greek. Lucky for you, you got a pretty little mouth on ya, so it shouldn't be a problem. I'll ask!
Posted by: judes | March 01, 2006 at 02:28 PM
It surely hasn't been that long since I've last heard the words "ya'll got a perty mout, boy" shouted from behind a scoped rifle...
Posted by: ComaBoy | March 01, 2006 at 03:31 PM