Salon's Cary Tennis is at it again (you'll have to watch an Audi ad to read it, so I'll save you the trouble). Today's reader is a whiney, under-employed, lonely guy with trust issues. Every year, his wealthy mom sends him a dress shirt and tie for xmas, even though he's told her time and again that he doesn't want a dress shirt and tie, nor does he have any occasion to wear it.
Given that mothers are second only to boyfriends in the not-retaining-a-single-thing-you-say department and second to none when it comes to passive-aggressive behavior, I'd say this guy is getting off easy and should grow the hell up already. I remember getting pissed off about stuff like this back when I was a blue-haired teenager and my mom would give me lace-collared Laura Ashley frocks in the hopes that I'd someday become the daughter she wished she'd had, instead of the slutty derelict she wound up with. By the time I was in my early 20s, I'd quit arguing and started returning.
Families are supposed to make you nuts. It's what they do.